While most people have heard that marriage satisfaction decreases after children are born, most people haven't been told that marriage satisfaction doesn't have to decrease once children are born. In fact, children can enhance a marriage. If you have just had your first child consider the following ideas to keep a spark in your marriage. First, it is a good idea to find time to be alone. If you can find a good babysitter try going out at least twice a month. Second, share personal ideas and thoughts on a daily basis. Third, include the child's growth and development in your talks. Fourth, both women and MEN need to be involved in parenting. Fifth, try to find individual time to develop personal skills.